Today was strange.
I had a nice lazy Sunday morning with a bagel and coffee in bed, watched some youtube then done some wedding scrapbooking. I am aware that I just said scrapbooking in a sentence and now feel like a middle aged woman from 1982 with perhaps a cat or two as companions. Look people, my wedding is two and a half years from now so I have to glue shit down when I find it in a magazine because I’ll for sure forget about it and have no intention of stockpiling two years’ worth of wedding magazines in my house. yes I also have a wedding Pinterest so sue me.
Anyway. I had a lovely morning and spoke to my fiancé on the phone who is still trying to get rid of a viral bug he has had all week which has put our seeing each other on hold till he’s well enough. I know when we live together again after I finish my degree (one year to go thank the lordy) I’ll be around him when he’s ill etc but while I have the privilege of trying to avoid his sickness so I don’t miss any classes (big deal in nursing school) then I’ll be doing just that. It sucks though because I miss him like crazy and really want to kiss his beardy face.
Later I went to a yoga class I’d never been to before with my best friend it was really great actually, I thoroughly enjoyed myself. I do yoga six days a week at the moment because I have the time but I do a home practice so it was nice to go to a class elsewhere for a change and I’m definitely considering going back at least every now and again for a change of pace. However, this is when my day gets strange.
My friend and I set up our mats and the class fills up we’re chatting and laughing away and I hadn’t even noticed this guy who came in. Now I’ve known this guy for probably three years now through a training course I did through an old job but we’ve barely spoke since then, at least not in person. He added me on facebook and follows me on Instagram and messages me every now and again. He’s really weird though. For years he’s randomly messaged me things like, ‘hey saw on facebook you passed your driving test well done’, which in itself is harmless. The messages are mostly about him though, what he’s doing with himself. So it will start with, ‘hey’ then immediately lead on to, ‘I’ve applied for such and such a job’ or whatever. Very rarely does he ask me how I’m doing, it’s like he’s trying to show off or something.
Most recently, was a few weeks ago when he messaged me saying, ‘hey’. That was all then when I eventually said hello back he just starts laying out all this stuff about his mum having terminal cancer. I didn’t know his mum was sick, I mean why would I, I barely know him. So I was of course taken aback because shouldn’t he be confiding in someone close to him, not an almost stranger? I know you are all probably sitting there rolling your eyes like bitch why are you replying to him?
Well simple fact of the matter is that at first I knew he was a bit weird but I thought he might have some sort of condition like Asperger’s or perhaps some social disability that just made him a little odd. Now I’m a non-judgmental person, I’m training to be a nurse and used to work with individuals with a variety of disabilities so I didn’t want to not speak to someone on the basis of that. Not to forget that other than his mum having cancer his messages were all absolute nonsense about himself and completely harmless in nature. I sometimes think he’s lonely and just messages folk for something to do. He has a load of friends on facebook, some of which I imagine to be real but most of which I imagine are people like me, acquaintances. So I’m sure there are probably a load of other people he talks to, not just me.
I then see on facebook at the end of last week that his mum has died and the funeral was the Thursday just past so I of course send my condolences and that was fine nothing was said. Then today happens. I’m fully aware that this is probably just a huge coincidence but I posted on my Instagram feed a picture of a healthy meal as I do because I have a fitness Instagram account and wrote in the caption about going to a yoga class with my bestie but didnt disclose where or when, I then posted in the bit that is like snapchat…if you have Instagram you’ll know what I mean, a picture of myself and my yoga mat (I know I’m a cliché) saying ‘yoga time’ not long before the class started.
He follows me on Instagram remember and I live in a small town with limited places that do fitness classes on a Sunday so I’ve either motivated him to do some yoga or he’s been a total creep and went because I’d be there, all it takes is a google search to find where a class would be. I promise you I’m not the kind of person who is big headed enough to believe I’m at all interesting enough to have any influence over another person or have a stalker…even though I did when I was a teenager but that’s beside the point. It was probably just a HUGE coincidence but it was enough to creep me the fuck out.
So we’re in class and the place is full so he is nowhere near me or my friend (thankfully) and he waves at me, I give him a nod back and we do the yoga class. At the end of the class he puts his mat away and waves again, it looks like he might come over to talk to me but I nod and then go back to chatting to my friend so he leaves. From the beginning I’ve never once gave him the illusion we were friends or anything so I thought it was best to continue that. What’s weird is that he’s never said anything inappropriate to me in any way, nothing sexual, nothing about being best buds, absolutely nothing scary at all but his manner and the way he says things is so strange. Maybe he’s dyslexic but his sentences are always a bit muddled and his spelling is poor and he never makes all that much sense.
Also, he just buried his mum on Thursday who he was really close to (he told me he was) and I just find it really odd that three days later you’d be up for a yoga class. It’s just way strange to me. I’ve decided to not reply to him anymore even though I do feel a bit bad but if this wasn’t a coincidence then I have to protect myself.
After class he disappeared thankfully and my friend and I went for coffee and chatted about her honeymoon plans before going to get the weekly shopping in. Speaking of which It’s after 8pm and I’ve not prepped my lunch for tomorrow which I should really do given I’m in all day and just spent money on shopping.
So that was my weird day in a nutshell.
If anyone has had any experiences with something like this and would like to share their advice then please do.